I say this a lot –
You have her INTEREST, but you don’t have the TIME (yet)
She has to be “under the spell” of high interest in you for at least 60 days.
Think of it like like she’s been HYPNOTIZED and all she can think about is YOU.
And the longer she’s under that spell, the more mistakes you can get away with.
But here’s the problem –
If she’s only been under that spell for 2 weeks, even if you make just ONE tiny mistake, she will “snap out of it” and end things.
(it happens all the time)
However, if she’s your girlfriend and she’s had high interest in you for 10 months – you could make a bunch of mistakes and she would give you the time to correct them. She will give you a chance to RAISE her interest back up.
More time under the spell = more chances for you to correct your mistakes
That’s why you can’t get overconfident when she’s really into you after just 3 dates. Sure, it’s nice that she’s so interested, but it doesn’t mean much until you get that TIME in.
Here’s where a lot of my coaching clients go wrong:
As soon as you notice that her interest in you is HIGH, there’s a temptation to forget all the rules and think that your situation is “special”. That you can text with her everyday. Or see her three times a week. Or go to that graduation party and meet all her friends.
But that’s the exact moment when she “snaps out of it” and realizes – wait a second, this is all going too fast.
Why did she tell you that she needs space?
Because you made the ONE mistake of going to fast. And because you didn’t have the TIME in, she didn’t allow you a chance to correct it.
One mistake and you were OUT! (it doesn’t seem fair does it)
Remember guys, the longer she’s under the spell of high interest, the greater the chance that she will become your girlfriend.
