Just because you have the self-control avoid initiating messages with her, doesn’t mean that she will. That’s why you will need to have self-control for both of you. Table for two please!
You are going to need to SAVE HER FROM HERSELF!
Because unlike the world before smartphones, today women also can’t resist CONTACTING YOU between dates. Getting a guy to text 24-7 is today’s version of taming a guy. Taking the WILD BEAST and getting him to send heart emojis.
Enter Rule #2
If/When she messages you, only respond with silly humor
Even though you will occasionally have to respond to her messages, if you make them silly and confusing, they won’t count TOWARDS giving her attention.
Introducing “Silly Humor”
Okay, you’ve got a handle on Rule #1 (no initiating any messages).
But what do you do when she messages you. Because, let’s be honest, it’s very likely that she will.
To handle that, you are going to need to rely on a steady diet of something called The Silly Messaging Strategy (SMS)
First some background.
Most guys text messages are pretty boring. And that’s being kind. They engage in a type of texting I call logical and factual. I did this. I went here. I’m doing this later. Just the facts mam! There is no playfulness. No humor. No fun.
Other guys are pretty funny, but their humor is rooted in the real world in the form of “inside jokes” and “playful teasing”. I call these guys “attractive texters”. It’s better than being boring, but there is a higher level.
Introducing, silly humor.
Silly humor is a mixture of playfulness, confusion and challenge all rolled into one perfect response
Examples Of Silly Humor
The first thing to realize is that when a woman texts you, odds are it’s going to be something BORING. Good morning, what are you doing?, how was you day? etc.
But here’s the deal –
She’s allowed to be boring. You are not. If you respond to her boring message with logical facts, she will lose attraction fast. And them the boring-ness will get blamed on YOU.
Instead you can turn her boring messages into SILLY FUN for both of you
Her: good morning!
You: Mypillow.com, it really works!
Her: you got a new pillow?
You: Use my promo code: sleepypete
Obviously, you never got a new pillow and you don’t have your own promo code – but the silliness takes her mind out of the boring REAL WORLD and into a PLAYFUL WORLD where nothing is serious and she can just have fun.
OUR MAIN GOAL is to TELL HER NOTHING AND MAKE HER LAUGH
Here’s another one – let’s say you are out with the boys (it’s boys night)
Her: Hey what’s up? what are you guys doing?
You: having a pillow fight and talking about the girls we like…top secret stuff
Notice how you responded, but you didn’t actually reveal any information. The message was silly, funny and slightly confusing. The perfect mix. Thus. your text message doesn’t count towards giving her attention.
Benefits of Silly Humor
#1) It’s the Polite way of saying: I don’t text a lot
You don’t want to get on your soapbox (or give away your game plan) by giving some long-winded speech about how you don’t text girls and how you hate social media.
Instead just send her silly replies. It’s a subtle way of telling her:
I don’t do this BORING good morning, good night stuff. I’m different than all the other guys chasing you. Message sent.
#2) It’s a Polite way of saying: “Let’s Save It For The Date “
By sending a silly response you are subtly communicating – I’m not going to tell you what Ive been doing VIRTUALLY over the phone – let’s save that conversation for our next date.
If she gets frustrated because you humorously refuse to divulge your whereabouts, all the better.
#3 Silly messages don’t count towards giving her ATTENTION
Because your message was silly and didn’t reveal any information, it doesn’t count towards your message TOTAL. If I asked you how many times you messaged her this week and 4 of your 6 messages were silly, you really only texted her twice.
Bottom line –
Engaging in a “silly” exchange allows you to communicate with her without completely satisfying her craving for your attention and validation. She will still want MORE!
Even More Benefits :
- Silly messages don’t trigger her – “things are going too fast alarm”
- Silly messages won’t make her think that she’s already got you figured out and has you TAMED
- Silly messages don’t make her feel like you are BORING and PREDICTABLE
Rule #2: Key Takeaway
Here’s the key takeaway from Rule #2
Serious attention and validation should ONLY be given when she’s out on a date with you in person.
Never over TEXT.
Messaging should be a silly playful world that makes little sense in the real world. Also, the shorter, the message the better. Use less words if you can.
You shouldn’t be talking to her, you should be talking through her (to no one in particular). So don’t bring up inside jokes or fun things you guys have done in the past. That’s not silly.
If I can easily understand what you wrote, it’s probably not silly enough.
And LESS is MORE. Know when to end things and walk away.
Even though silly messages are very powerful, if you send too many back and forth, she will be filed up with your attention and no longer want to see you.
Response Strategy
And remember –
Silly messages should ONLY be used to RESPOND to her messages. Don’t just randomly send her silly messages for no reason. You aren’t supposed to be initiating texts with her between dates (see rule #1)
Most guys are completely winging it when it comes to their response strategy. The best they can come up with is – dude, I wanted 3 hours to message her back. Hate to say it, but even if you waited 3 months, if your reply is boring and logical, she still won’t be attracted to you.
Don’t Ignore Her
Other guys think they should ignore her messages.
To that I say, why would we want to punish her for wanting to hear from us. If you keep the responses short and silly, you won’t have to ignore many messages.
I’d also say that if you suddenly take hours to respond, ignore messages and are “short” with your replies, she is going to think you are butt-hurt because of her recent low interest behavior towards you.
However, when you send silly replies, you will seem really happy. Translation; her behavior didn’t effect your mood