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Chris: What’s, what’s the dad like again? What’s her ex husband like? I’m assuming he was a negative challenge.
Client: Criminal alcoholic, 25 arrests, he had secret families that, you know, they didn’t know about each other.
Client: I was thinking about this because I saw this girl that’s friends with one of my exes who was posting on social media. She just broke up with her boyfriend and she just went off about like everything he did to her the past, like nine months or whatever.
First he got her pregnant, then she found, finds out he’s cheating on her with his counselor at drug rehab, and then she found out now that he got his counselor pregnant
Chris: Listen, I’m not making light of this. It’s sad part of human behavior, but that is what’s called a negative challenge. And a negative challenge still produces that high in the woman’s brain of excitement and drama. And she feels alive, even though all of this bad stuff is going on.
Chris: And that’s why everything I coach and everything I teach is try to create that same feeling through positive challenge. Challenge is a very, very powerful drug, whether it’s the good version or the bad version. The negative challenge is the street version, the street drug, the bad stuff, but it still has the same effect.
And you feel bad, but this is what women are choosing if you don’t give her the positive challenge. So your woman, same thing, she dated the alcoholic criminal, it was a challenge, and she liked it.
