Relationships are EMOTIONAL (not logical)
Thus, it’s always about “how she feels”
Because unlike the unconditional love you get from family, friends and pets, romantic love comes with ONE HUGE condition.
And that one condition is, that when she’s with you (or thinking about you) she must feel REALLY GOOD.
So you never want take the feeling for granted. Because when the “feeling” is gone and the attraction wears off, she’s gone.
Case in point from one of my clients –
She told me that she doesn’t feel the “love connection” anymore and doesn’t know if it would ever come back. She hoped it would, but it’s just not.
So, knowing that “the feeling” is most important ingredient for romantic love, then there’s no better “feeling” than the greatest one of all.
The Greatest “Feeling” in the World (#1)
The greatest feeling in the world…
Is feeling like you’re dating someone out of your league.
There’s no drug like it.
Capturing someone you think is “above you”, even slightly, produces a feeling so amazing, it can only be described as the greatest feeling in the world. Yes, even better than “physical pleasure”
Put simply, your brain is rewarding you with an avalanche of pleasure chemicals, for winning the game of life.
We call this feeling, being in love or the 100% experience (represented here as an orange)
The 2nd Best Feeling In The World
The #2 feeling in the world is different.
The second best feeling in the world is getting VALIDATION from someone you feel is slightly below you, or around your level.
When a guy who’s perfect (on paper), puts a woman on a pedestal and does whatever she wants – she feels good!
But it’s only the second best feeling in the world.
So she will always feel like there’s something missing. Something more to strive for. (represented here as an apple)
Or to put it another way:
The #1 feeling in the world is the feeling of being IN LOVE with a guy and the #2 feeling is being WORSHIPED by a guy
Are You an Apple or an Orange?
Most guys try to get a girl by being an apple (a nice guy). The problem is there’s a ton of competition out in “apple land”.
If you bought her a bracelet, The other guy buys her a car. You confessed your feelings on the second date. He said “I love you on the first date”. You text her everyday. He texts her ALL DAY.
Being an apple is tough.
In contrast, she hasn’t come across or dated many oranges (guys who give her a challenge).
Men and Women Are Different
For a man, the #1 feeling in the world happens instantly and is based mostly on her looks. I wish I could say he carefully screened her attitude as well, but we both know that’s not true,
If the woman he’s dating is more physically attractive than he ever thought he could get – BOOM! He’s got the #1 feeling.
In other words, to him, she’s already an ORANGE
Women are different.
She may be interested, but it’s rare for her to just meet a guy and instantly have that #1 feeling. That means you will have to work on raising her feelings for you over a period of time,
If you do everything right for 10 dates, in about 2-3 months she should have the #1 feeling for you and want to be your girlfriend.
What do I mean by “do everything right”?
What Creates The #1 Feeling For a Woman?
Let me repeat this again because I really want it to sink in.
The greatest pleasure for women is feeling like she’s dating someone out of her league.
But what creates that feeling? How does she know that you’re an orange and not just another apple?
Is it your good looks? Money? Status? Your expensive car? Nope, not even close.
Here’s how she figures out if you are truly “#1 guy” material
- She feels like she is chasing you
- She’s working hard to impress you
- She feels a strong desire to “win you over”
That’s because chasing someone (having to work hard to get them) tricks the brain into thinking you are getting someone better than you ever dreamed you could.
That you are dating someone “out of your league”
And thinking that releases an avalanche of pleasure chemicals.
You feel incredible!
The Lifelong Journey To Get Better
Life is about all the journey to get better.
We all want a better house, a better job, better health. We want to look and feel better. And we never want the journey to find BETTER to be over. Because that would feel like DYING.
That’s why women either date around (stay single) or the fall for the bad boy. It keeps her lifelong journey to be better alive. The game continues. Life continues. It motivates her to read self-improvement books, hit the gym and get a raise at work.
Remember, nobody ever wants the game of life (get better) to be over.
She Will Put In Effort For Something “Better”
I want you to read these song lyrics by a female singer. This is an example of a woman wanting to work really hard to win over a guy.
Can you picture the girl you like singing this song about you?
Gonna make you notice
Gonna use my arms
Gonna use my legs
Gonna use my style
Gonna use my fingers
Gonna use my imagination
‘Cause I’m, going make you see
There’s nobody else here, no one like me
I’m special
So special
I got have some of your, attention, give it to me!
The lesson is, women want to work hard and put effort into winning you over. Because this proves she’s on the right track on her quest to get something better.
The Process:
– First, I think this guy might represent something better (looks, status)
– Next, he’s confirmed it by the way he acts (challenge, humor, self-control)
– And now I’m putting lots of effort into chasing him and trying to win him over (the chase)
– Finally, my brain rewards me with non-stop pleasure chemicals making me feel amazing. Which confirms that yes, he is the “right” guy
You Already Have The #1 Feeling (For Her)
Like most guys, you already have the #1 feeling towards the girl you like.
And you had that feeling after the very first date. I used to ask my coaching clients to rate their feelings for her on a scale from 1-100. But I stopped. What’s the point? Because no matter what they say, I already know it’s 100.
That’s the reason why they signed up for coaching in the first place. And it’s the reason why you purchased this program.
You think she’s a little better than you. You think she’s slightly out of your league. You can’t stop thinking about her. And every time you do, your brain releases a RUSH of pleasure chemicals.
Oh what a feeling!
But “She Wants To Feel, Like You Feel”
However, this is VERY bad news.
Because the moment she realizes that you have the #1 feeling for her – It becomes IMPOSSIBLE for her to have the #1 feeling for you.
Or to use our fruit example,..
The moment she realizes that you’re an APPLE (someone beneath her), she no longer gets the pleasure chemicals from thinking that she was dating an ORANGE (someone above her)
Don’t you get it?
Everybody wants to feel like they’re getting someone better. Or if we want to reduce all of this down to a simple slogan — EVERYBODY WANTS AN ORANGE. Not just you. She wants to feel like she’s getting someone “out of her league” as well. She wants to experience the same pleasure chemicals you’re getting. It’s unfair!
Look, of course men and women both enjoy being in a relationship.
But only one of you can get the EXTRA pleasure chemicals that come from feeling like you’re dating someone above your level. You can’t BOTH feel like you are out of each others leagues.
The Win-Win Relationship
Or can you?
Thankfully, there is a way to work around this dilemma.
Here’s How:
Whenever you have the #1 feeling for a girl, keep that to yourself (for now), go slowly, and allow her to chase you.
This way she feels like she is getting someone she had to work for (an orange). A guy she had to win over. And now you both have the #1 feeling.
In other words, you are BOTH oranges.
That’s the only way you can both win.
How To Keep That #1 Feeling Alive
Even if a woman is crazy about you after just one date, you still have to give her a CHALLENGE.
That’s because in the beginning, her interest is mostly based on your looks (you’re her exact type) and your status in the environment where you met (I’ve always wanted to date a guy in a band!)
So, if you give her nothing to CHASE, and just assume you’ve already won her heart, those feelings won’t last long.
To sustain her number one feeling, you must take things very slow and allow her to chase you. Because going slow and being a challenge SUSTAINS that number one feeling over the long-haul.
Everything’s Better When You’re an Orange (#1 Feeling)
Look, women will never admit this, but they secretly want to like you a little MORE than you like them. Because that means she will be experiencing the worlds most “amazing feeling” all day long.
The feeling of BETTER!
So if you’re just looking to settle for a woman who has low or mild interest in you, this program is not for you. There are millions of guys in relationships with women who don’t have the #1 feeling for them. In fact, I know a lot of them. And let’s just say, they’re not very happy.
The goal isn’t to just get a girlfriend. Or get married. Those are just labels.
The goal is to get the girl you like to have the #1 feeling for you. To view you as an ORANGE.
Because life is just better when she has the #1 feeling for you. She’s more affectionate. More romantic. She never wants to argue. And she thinks you’re the most attractive man on earth.
That’s our goal.
Now let’s talk more about the #2 feeling in the world.