Let’s be real – a lot of guy reading this may have already screwed up.
So, what can you do if you’ve already been boring or texted too much with the girl you want to use this on?
Switch #1) To Silly Humor
If the majority of your messages have been logical and factual, it’s time to make the change to silly humor.
But realize that at first, she’s going to TEST YOU on this new “funny version of you”
She may say things like – you’re acting weird. Are you drunk? Or… I’m confused?
The key is to not back down and keep up the “funnies”
She may not like it at first because she will feel like she is losing the control she had over you and the relationship.
So don’t expect her to LOL and be jumping up and down for joy. And hey, if she gets a little frustrated by your sudden good mood and playful attitude, all the better.
Over time, she will get used to it.
Switch #2) Cutting Back On Your Texting
The other switch you need to make, is reducing the amount of text messages that you INITIATE.
The key is to do this slowly so she can’t tell anything is different. Remember, by getting you to text, she feels like she has tamed you. And she won’t want to give up that power easily. Women don’t like to give back ground they have gained
Here Are 5 Ways To Cutback on Your TOTAL Number of Messages
#1 Initiate Less
This is 100% within your control so no excuses. Say you are initiating 5 messages a day. First you go to 3 and then 2 and then 1. Eventually getting down to every other day or every few days. Just make sure to do this slowly.
She likely will fill the gap by initiating more with you. And if she does, you know what to do next.
#2 Silly responses don’t count! (serious ones do)
Picture a scoreboard with the number of texts you send per day. Imagine right now that the scoreboard says 14. Well, when you respond to her latest messages in a logical/boring way, another point goes up on the board.
Her: good morning!
You: Hey, headed out the door. Hope you have a wonderful day. (heart emoji)
That FACTUAL (boring) message goes towards your total and now your total messages score went from 14 to 15.
However, when you send a “silly”….
Her: good morning!
You: coffee is my love language, tell your friends
That silly message doesn’t go on the scoreboard total for the day. So you just saved one point off the total amount.
#3 Selectively Ignore Unimportant Texts
Another way to lower your total texts score is to selectively ignore what can be ignored. For example, if she sends you a picture of a sunset. Or forwards a funny meme.
You may have always responded to these message in the past (wow, that sunset is beautiful) , but these are the kind of texts you can safely ignore. She’s not asking you a direct question.
I don’t like ignoring as a strategy, but used selectively, it can really help you lower your total score.
#4 End Text Volleys First (Call It)
A text volley is when she knows you are there, so you end up going back and forth a few times. You may have not even intended to stay on so long, but it just kind of happens.
To avoid this, you can make it a rule to wait at least a few minutes before responding to any message. A lot of guys get carried away and wait hours (which can also help slow down the total number of messages) but by waiting at least a few minutes, she won’t ever think you are available to text back and forth.
If you do somehow find yourself in an extended text exchange, just make sure to end it (call it) first before it really goes on too long.
You: okay, I’m going to call it a night. Even a beautiful guy like me needs a little beauty sleep
No guys end things first with beautiful women. You’ll be the first one.
#5 The proper Use of Reactions/Emojis
Using reactions is a mixed bag, so let’s get into what and what not to do.
The good news is, using a reaction (like, love, haha etc) can shorten what otherwise would have been a longer response.
Her: my sisters wedding was so fun! OMG, we danced like crazy all night
So instead of jumping on that topic and asking her followup questions, you can simply LIKE the message. Or use an emoji. This way she can’t pretend to be mad that you completely ignored her.
On the other hand, most guys are using the reactions wrong. For one, they will HEART a message and also respond to it. That’s double dipping and counts as 2 more points up on the scoreboard.
Also some are “reacting” to a message that could have safely been ignored. By reacting it now counts as a 1 instead of a ZERO.
Reverse The Damage
It can be tough to turn back time and get back to when you didn’t message with her so much. But if you follow these 5 strategies, and dial it back slowly, you will be able to pull it off.