Stop Trying to Be “Cool” – Be This Instead
Hey,
Here’s a truth bomb for you: Trying to be the “cool guy” might get you some short-term attention, but it will never make you the #1 guy in her life.
Why? Because trying to be cool screams insecurity.
What “Cool Guys” Get Wrong
Sure, the “cool guys” from high school might have dated or hooked up more—but they rarely kept the dream girl for long. Why?
Because trying to act cool still communicates neediness. It tells her you’re afraid to just be yourself. She knows you’re putting on an act, and that kills attraction.
The Real #1 Guy? He Doesn’t Care About Cool.
The guy women can’t resist—the one they keep coming back to—is the guy who:
- Amuses himself. He says what he wants because he’s genuinely having fun.
- Doesn’t take her too seriously. He doesn’t need her approval to feel confident.
- Can’t be tamed. Her mood doesn’t control his mood. Her reactions don’t dictate his behavior.
When you drop the need to impress her, and instead focus on enjoying yourself, you become the kind of guy she can’t figure out—and can’t stop thinking about.
How to Pull This Off
- Say What You Want: Send that silly, ridiculous text that makes you laugh.
- Example: “Random thought… I’m starting a taco review club. You’re officially member #2.”
- Disappear After the Fun: Don’t sit around waiting for her response. Send it, chuckle to yourself, and get on with your day.
- Keep Your Mood Untouchable: Whether she texts back immediately or leaves you on read, you’re still good. A guy who can’t be rattled is a guy she respects.
Key Takeaway: Stop playing the “cool game”—it’s rigged. Women don’t fall in love with the guy who’s trying to win their approval; they fall for the guy who doesn’t need it.
Amuse yourself. Be silly. Say what you want. And most importantly—have more fun than everyone else.
P.S. When you’re not afraid to be goofy, bold, or unpredictable, she doesn’t see a “cool guy.” She sees the #1 guy.
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