Yes, you should be a CHALLENGE.
But if the girl you like has lost interest in you, there’s one “challenge” that will no longer work.
She will never again WONDER…. “if” you like her.
That ship has sailed.
That “challenge” only works the first time around. When you first met and started dating.
But there is good news, because the challenge should never be “I’m going to keep you guessing if I actually like you”…
The REAL challenge is:
“I like you, but you can’t tame me”
Your frame is this:
I like you, and I’m NOT going to apologize for liking you. However, that doesn’t mean you can control everything and get my attention anytime you want (just because I like you)
This way she gets the best of both worlds.
A guy that really likes her AND a guy she can’t control.
That’s what we call a “POSITIVE CHALLENGE”
- positive challenge: likes her, can’t be controlled
- negative challenge: doesn’t like her, can’t be controlled
- wimp: likes her, CAN be controlled
Guys, when you first meet her, you can gain some points by making her wonder how much you actually like her… but if you’re operating in “damage control” that strategy no longer works.
She already knows that you REALLY, REALLY like her,
So all of a sudden pretending that you don’t, isn’t going to work.
The solution is to fix the main issues that ACTUALLY tuned her off in the first place.
You never said NO and you were way too AVAILABLE.
Fix those two things and forget pretending that you don’t like her anymore.
