It’s another message from a new client.
And it starts like this…
I’m successful, handsome and in great shape. I’ve been with many beautiful women before. But Chris, I keep screwing things up with the women I want.
My main problem is hanging onto a girl when I really start to like her.
Newsflash: Everything’s Harder When You Like Her!
The thing is, of course you were “good with women” when your weren’t that interested in her.
Or it was just a “casual hookup”
It’s easy to go slow when it isn’t the girl of your dreams.
But ACTUALLY being good with women means being able to do everything right when you are CRAZY about her.
This is when it gets hard.
REAL hard.
The Wimp (Nice Guy) Is All Of Us
I’m sure some guys act like wimps with women all the time. Or they always come off as the nice guy, But it’s not that simple.
See, the truth is we can all be the wimp, Or as I like to say, the wimp is all of us.
Because any guy, no matter how rich, good looking or successful can turn into a nice guy wimp when he really likes a girl.
It’s like he becomes a totally different person.
So, Who Is Good?
Who is actually good with women?
Where are the role models? Who should we be looking up to? Is it celebrities? The Rock stars? The CEOs?
Sure, they may have dozens of women after them. But why are they getting divorced for the third time? Why is the one woman they really love leaving them again?
The truth is, you could be great at picking up women. Or skilled at dating multiple girls. Maybe you’ve got money, status and muscles.
But that doesn’t mean you’ve reached the highest level of being good with women.
The Highest Level
The highest level is having 100% interest in a girl and still being able to control yourself. Being head over heels for her and still being able to say NO to her.
Or calmly walk away if she’s being disrespectful.
Despite her being your “dream girl”, you can take things slow and also slow her down if she’s going too fast.
THIS is the highest level of skill with women
This is the final test, This is your final exam.
When it feels like it’s almost impossible NOT to text her. When it takes everything you’ve got not to see her again the next day. Or to override your desire to want to buy her gifts and confess your feelings.
Until you’re able to hang back and go slowly when your interest is 100%, you haven’t yet mastered being good with women.
First, The Bad News
Here’s the BAD news.
It’s much harder to be a challenge and go slow today.
Its harder, because it’s easier than ever for YOU to contact HER
Technology is always there, just begging you to reach out.
Texting, Facebook, Cell Phones, Instagram, Messaging Apps
They all whisper in your ear…
Just check in and see what’s she’s up to. What’s the big deal Everybody else is doing it.
Back in the day your only option was to pickup the phone and dial her number. And this usually gave you a minute to reconsider the big mistake you were about to make.
But today you can instantly reach out via messaging apps or social media. It takes less than a second.
So having the self-control is harder than ever.
Here’s The Good News
But the good news is that in this “over-connected” world…
Being a challenge is even more POWERFUL.
Women are so used to getting constant “attention” from guys – that just disappearing for a few days, packs more of a punch than it did 10 years ago.
It’s RARE to find a guy who’s a challenge today.
However, if you have the guts to go slowly…
Allowing her to chase you works better than ever.
The Future Of Dating
Look, no matter what new “dating apps” or technology comes out in the future – women will still always crave a challenge.
So, the more things change….
The more they stay EXACTLY the same.
If you want to make her fall in love, you still need to give her a challenge.
Let’s get started.
